Sometimes we do things to each other that seem completely unforgivable. Thoughtless actions that lead to broken hearts and hurt feelings.
Jake and I are no stranger to this. We have each done and said things that could have been deal breakers. Things that hurt really bad. Recently something happened that required me to do some thinking and soul searching.
How is it that we always move on? How have we made it this far?
The only answer I could come up with is forgiveness. Forgiving without conditions. Loving without conditions.
Five years of forgiving a moving forward with a clean slate.
Something I have worked on for years in my marriage with Jake is to look at him as unselfishly as I can. When he does or says something that seems unforgivable, I take a moment and remind myself that I chose him. I married this man. I love him more than I could ever explain to you or him. And that love cannot only go so far..it has to exceed limitations. My love for Jake must be unconditional. Always. Not just sometimes… Or it will never work.
It is my duty as his wife and best friend to love beyond the feelings. It is my duty to pray for my marriage and my partner. And I do. I guess I just hope to keep growing better for my husband. I know my marriage will never be perfect. I cannot see the future But I hope that with each passing year of life together, we solve a little more of the puzzle.
My hope is that one day our daughters will know how to love unconditionally. That when they are my age, we will have set a good enough example of what loving another person really means.